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The statistics are jarring. One in four women and one in six men are or will be victims of sexual assault in their lifetime. But as sobering as the statistics are, they don’t begin to speak to the darkness and grief experienced by these victims. Because sexual assault causes physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual pain, victims need clear help, hope, and healing. In Rid of My Disgrace, a couple experienced in counseling victims of sexual assault explains how the grace of God can heal the broken and restore the disgraced.

Justin and Lindsey Holcomb outline an approach for moving from destruction to redemption. While avoiding platitudes and shallow theology, Rid of My Disgrace combines biblical and theological depth with up-to-date research. This book is primarily written for those who have been assaulted (either as children or adults) but also equips family, friends, pastors, and others to care for victims in ways that are compassionate, practical, and informed. Part of the Re:Lit series.

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“Careful research, lots of Scripture, and a demonstration that the work of Christ says ‘you are washed clean’ to those who feel like outcasts, which will speak to victims of sexual abuse.”
Ed Welch, Counselor and Faculty Member, Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation

“I can’t express how grateful I am that someone is tackling this subject with both a pastoral heart and an understanding of how the devastating effects of sexual assault can wreak havoc for decades after the abuse. It is an epidemic issue where resources are scarce. There isn’t a weekend that goes by where we aren’t told a gut-wrenching tale of innocence stolen and left trying to help a man or woman make sense of their pain. I praise God for the gospel that can heal and restore and for the Holcombs that had the courage and wisdom to write this book for us.”
Matt Chandler, Lead Pastor, The Village Church, Dallas, Texas; President, Acts 29 Church Planting Network; author, The Mingling of Souls and The Explicit Gospel 

“God sees, knows, heals, restores, and redeems. This is the message of hope this book offers, to all who have suffered from abuse. How desperately needed this message is in our culture today! In my interaction with teens and young adults, I have heard many stories of sexual abuse. I am so thrilled that there is a resource like this book that offers relevant, practical, biblical hope and healing words of life.”
Rebecca St. James, singer; author; actress

“Justin and Lindsey demonstrate a unique level of compassion and concern for victims of sexual assault and the hope for them for healing. The gentle and empathetic tone, along with a sincere belief that victims can experience healing, makes this book indispensable for both victims and those who care for them.”
Craig Groeschel, Pastor, Life.Church; author, Daily Power: 365 Days of Fuel for Your Soul

“The world―and too often the church―encourages victims of sexual assault to do more. Self-help advice just adds more layers of guilt and a sense of powerlessness. The authors of this excellent book have good news: literally, a gospel that answers our disgrace with the grace of God in Christ. For anyone who suffers from abuse―as well as those who minister to them―Rid of My Disgrace is powerful, healing medicine.”
Michael Horton, Professor of Systematic Theology and Apologetics, Westminster Seminary California

“Where will you find a ‘Theology of the Victim’ from a Reformed theologian? You just found it. If you’ve been the victim of abuse, you won’t find yourself blamed in this book. You’ll find yourself embraced by the love of a God who meets you in your pain. This will be required reading for all of my students.”
Chuck DeGroat, Academic Dean, Newbigin House of Studies; Director, City Church Counseling Center

“Some books are easy to read, but this isn’t one of them. Its difficulty, however, is not a matter of style or prose but of substance. We don’t like thinking about sexual assault and abuse. We’d rather pretend they don’t exist. But the church can no longer afford to turn a blind eye to the extent of this problem or to ignore the devastation it brings to both body and soul. What makes this book so worthy of your attention, notwithstanding the discomfort it may cause you to feel, is the wealth of wisdom, gospel grace, and pastoral sensitivity that the Holcombs bring to bear on those affected by this experience. No matter how deep the pain or sense of loss endured by the victims of sexual assault, God’s healing grace and power are greater still. Highly recommended!”
Sam Storms, Senior Pastor, Bridgeway Church, Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

“One can tell that the Holcombs have extensive experience working with victims of various kinds of assault because this book is so comprehensive in elucidating the types of healing necessary. Thoroughly researched, richly evangelical in theology, strongly assertive to deliver from blame and guilt, Rid of My Disgrace is heartily recommended for all who suffer from sexual exploitation.”
Marva J. Dawn, theologian; speaker; author, Being Well When We''re Ill; In the Beginning GOD; and Talking the Walk

“As the President of Youth for Christ/USA, I am a first hand witness to thousands of lives that have been impacted and marred by sexual assault. Often the trauma is replaced by debilitating shame and despair. I was moved and inspired by the thoughtful, comprehensive and approachable way that Justin and Lindsey Holcomb unpack the power of grace. The pages of the book unwrap the gift of God, they unlock the shackles of guilt, and they unleash the Spirit of God to transform. Rid of My Disgrace is an important work, for a vital time, to a broken people. I praise God for the fruit that this book will produce.”
Dan Wolgemuth, President/CEO, Youth for Christ

“Written passionately from the agony that haunts victims, this book also offers a message of hope and healing. It is an invaluable resource for those who have been victimized and a must-read for family, friends, pastors, or counselors of victims to be equipped to serve and love them well.”
Jud Wilhite, author, Eyes Wide Open and Uncensored Grace; Senior Pastor, Central Christian Church, Las Vegas, Nevada

“This important book places the powder keg of gospel truth where it is most needed: on the frontline of pastoral ministry. A mixture of clear writing, real-life stories, and faithful Bible exposition makes this a powerful resource in the fight for redemption in the lives of those we are called to serve.”
Joel Virgo, Lead Pastor, Church of Christ the King, Brighton

“This is a sad and disturbing book. The ‘dark’ of it will keep you awake at night. But the ‘light’ will cause you to sing with joy and hope. What a gift to the church and to those who have felt the shame of sexual assault or who love those who have! Read it and give it to your friends. They will rise up and call you blessed! It is the best book I’ve ever read on the subject of abuse…and I’ve read a lot of them.”
Steve Brown, Host, Key Life radio program; author, Three Free Sins: God Isn''t Mad At You 

“This compelling, disturbing and hopeful book written from the perspective of the Christian faith, has the potential to be a lifeline for many who have experienced the horror of sexual violence.”
Rob Morris, President and cofounder, Love146

Rid of My Disgrace reminds victims of sexual assault that they are not alone and it is not the end of the story. From King David’s daughter Tamar to the courageous survivors telling their stories today, the Holcombs take sexual assault out of the shadows of shame and isolation and into the light of the gospel. With a solid grasp on both the effects of sexual assault and of redemptive history, the Holcombs thoroughly identify sexual assault and its aftermath while calling the reader to let even such a painful, hideous act be a part of their story of redemption through Christ’s sufficient work on the cross.”
Monica Taffinder, cofounder and counselor, Grace Clinic Christian Counseling

“This book helped us understand the painful emotions that go along with the particular suffering of sexual assault. But more than that, it showed us how to respond to our twelve-year-old son who was assaulted.”
Parents of a child victim

“I thought I had gotten over the abuses in my past―I had forgiven my abusers, stopped feeling like a victim, and felt like I was a stronger person. After reading Rid of My Disgrace, I realized there were still underlying issues I hadn’t dealt with that were preventing me from getting close to other people and, worst of all, preventing me from having a deeper relationship with God. Each chapter not only discussed each emotion that had been secretly weighing on me, but also showed me that those emotions don’t have to rule me. Jesus’ death and resurrection apply not only to my sins, but also to the burden of someone else’s sin against me. My identity is no longer as ‘damaged goods.’ It is ‘child of God’ and with that comes God’s unending love. I highly recommend this book for anyone who has experienced not only some form of sexual abuse, but other abuses as well.”
Adult female victim

About the Author

Lindsey A. Holcomb,  MPH, is an award-winning author and an advocate for survivors of abuse. She and her husband, Justin, are coauthors of   God Made All of Me God Made Me in His Image , and Is It My Fault? . Lindsey has provided crisis intervention to survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence, and sex-trafficking, and she conducts a variety of training seminars to service providers. Lindsey was a cofounder of REST (Real Escape from the Sex Trade).
 
Justin S. Holcomb, PhD, is an award-winning author, seminary professor, and minister. He and his wife, Lindsey, are authors of  God Made All of MeGod Made Me in His Image, and  Is It My Fault?. Justin has also written or edited numerous books, including  God With UsKnow the HereticsKnow the Creeds and Councils, and  On the Grace of God. He serves on the board of GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in Christian Environments).

 

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Reviewed in the United States on June 28, 2020
Lately, I have been sensing the Lord nudging me to start talking more openly about a sexual assault that happened almost 20 years ago in college. But fear of being judged, shame and guilt have kept me silent. I wondered what people especially my Christian friends would... See more
Lately, I have been sensing the Lord nudging me to start talking more openly about a sexual assault that happened almost 20 years ago in college. But fear of being judged, shame and guilt have kept me silent. I wondered what people especially my Christian friends would think of me if they knew. I will be honest, I was terrified to read this book. I thought it would give only simplistic or pat answers. I was wrong. This book helped me to understand that what happened to me was not my fault. It also helped me realize that something I felt extremely guilty about is actually very common and not something I should feel guilty or ashamed about. This book also helped me see what happened to me in a completely new way. I also love the way it addresses sexual assault in the Bible. If you have been a victim of rape or sexual assault get them and yourself a copy of this book. Another good Christian book on this topic is Beyond Our Control by Leila Rae Sommefeld
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Dr. David Steele
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Gospel Packed and Christ Exalting
Reviewed in the United States on May 14, 2012
Rid of My Disgrace, a book that explores the sin of sexual abuse has received some bad press. None of it is justified. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb have crafted a fine piece of work that is honest, transparent, and accurately unpacks the baggage that tragically has been... See more
Rid of My Disgrace, a book that explores the sin of sexual abuse has received some bad press. None of it is justified. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb have crafted a fine piece of work that is honest, transparent, and accurately unpacks the baggage that tragically has been laid at the feet of so many people in this country. The authors are quick to point out that "at least one in four women and one in six men are or will be victims of sexual assault in their lifetime." Their aim is to offer hope to victims of sexual abuse; hope that is found in the sacrificial work of Christ on the cross and the gospel.

A myriad of resources are available for victims of sexual abuse, however most tools are rooted in Freudian psychology or man-centered ideology. Rid of My Disgrace is a sharp departure from the typical drivel that floods the marketplace of ideas.

Part one exposes the sin and side effects of sexual assault. Part two walks readers through the complicated emotional responses that most victims experience. And part three presents hope for victims that is rooted in the gospel of Jesus. This gospel is clearly articulated and applied specifically to the hurts experienced by those who have been sinned against.

Rid of My Disgrace is a powerful tool for pastors and counselors and a treasure chest of hope for victims of sexual abuse. My hope is that this book receives a wide reading and will accomplish great things to glory of God in the days ahead.

Highly recommended
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Personal, Insightful, and Full of Gospel Grace
Reviewed in the United States on February 19, 2012
When despair, anguish, and the weight of guilt of shame are too heavy, pick up this book. This book speaks from experience, and that sometimes makes it really hard to read... But this book is about bringing darkness into light. To bravely and boldly... See more
When despair, anguish, and the weight of guilt of shame are too heavy, pick up this book.

This book speaks from experience, and that sometimes makes it really hard to read...

But this book is about bringing darkness into light. To bravely and boldly deal with sexual abuse, instead of running from, or denying it.

For the abused, it''s what you''ve been looking for to end your nightmares. For those who shepherd the abused, it will open your eyes, and your heart to feel the pain, and the hope for those under your care.

The facts on sexual abuse are devastating, but the memories and experiences from those abused are even more so. I think that is why, at every possible turn and through every possible tear, this book points you to a greater Gospel. For me, it gave a deeper understanding and affection for a God who is angry at corruption, injustice, and violence, right along side me, and it made the cross of Jesus so much bigger... To see Jesus naked, betrayed, publicly shamed, disgraced, humiliated, and utterly destroyed on the cross... and to know He did all that to remove my disgrace, so I might be free to take joy in Him, and joy in life and marriage... has actually brought healing.

So I just encourage you, if you sought out this book, please go through with it. Be brave, consider that there is hope, and pick this up.
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Timothy Potter
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A Great Foundation for Freedom from Past Injustice.
Reviewed in the United States on March 6, 2012
Rid of My Disgrace gives a great foundation for a person to forgive the wrongs committed against them and to let go of past pain inflicted on them. The authors use quotes from the Bible and many other authorities to make the case that we can and should forgive people who... See more
Rid of My Disgrace gives a great foundation for a person to forgive the wrongs committed against them and to let go of past pain inflicted on them. The authors use quotes from the Bible and many other authorities to make the case that we can and should forgive people who hurt us because it is only right in light of all from which God has forgiven us. While we should not forgive to get free, if we forgive in light of what Christ did for us, we will find freedom. The book includes many powerful testimonies of people who have suffered terrible injustices and let go of the pain to live victorious lives. I was disappointed to reach the end of the book and not be given a last chapter description of how to use the foundation they had laid to help people. I realized the book had given me the information needed, so I need to reread it realizing the keys to breaking free are spread through the book and not summarized in the last chapter.
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Carl A. Dixon
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Great help for victims of sexual violence.
Reviewed in the United States on January 30, 2011
This is a well prepared book by Justin and Lindsey. The book has a multiple audience. It is definitely for those who are in a struggle to overcome the sexual improprieties of their past - but it is also an important book for those who minister to or counsel this group of... See more
This is a well prepared book by Justin and Lindsey. The book has a multiple audience. It is definitely for those who are in a struggle to overcome the sexual improprieties of their past - but it is also an important book for those who minister to or counsel this group of people. I have been a Pastor for almost 30 years and have found this book the best, biblical based treatment of the problem. The 1st part of the book is especially helpful for those reading it who intend to be counselors of various kinds toward sexually abused men and women. We have a very active counseling ministry at our church and this book will become a guide for them to be even more helpful than they have in the past. The book also alerts those who may not know just how large an issue this is. The statistic that is most helpful is that 1 in 4 women have been raped and 1 in 6 men have been sexually abused. The authors then suggest that this is one of the most unreported crimes in the United States at least. I have a friend in law enforcement who deals directly with these sorts of crimes and he says definitely the statistics are very understated. That means that those of us who deal with larger audiences (congregations) are speaking to many men and women who need to hear this message and know where they can get help. I am promoting the purchase of this book as often as I can. I also appreciate the solutions the book offers. The series of stories by people who have been abused are heart-wrenching. I have been brought to tears reading them. But each story is followed up with clear Biblical teaching and easy to understand applications for the the reader to grasp. I am not aware of any other book that could compete with the way this book handles the problem and solutions. Anyone who reads this book will be given the information they need to help others or be helped and most important - the reader will understand how large a problem sexual violence is in our society (in our churches) today.
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Jim E. Hecker
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A Must Read. Finally, A book that Provides Much Needed Guidance for Parents, Teachers and Pastors BRAVO!!
Reviewed in the United States on August 16, 2014
I heard Mr. Holcomb as a guest on the Whitehorse Inn and purchased the book for my daughter who had been rapped by a male babysitter years ago(unknown until recently); as such, has created several bad decisions in selecting suitable mates and other male relationships all... See more
I heard Mr. Holcomb as a guest on the Whitehorse Inn and purchased the book for my daughter who had been rapped by a male babysitter years ago(unknown until recently); as such, has created several bad decisions in selecting suitable mates and other male relationships all of her life from that point forward. Though I have not had the opportunity to discuss the merits of this book since I sent it to her earlier this month, I am certain it will provide her a path forward. Likewise, I gave a copy to a female school advisor/teacher to equip her and students how to handle situations should it be a topic of discussion; something my daughter did not have growing-up. So far, so good and one-day at a time.
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Kara A.
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Indispensable, liberating
Reviewed in the United States on January 11, 2017
As someone who has personally suffered from sexual abuse as a child and an adult, I strongly recommend this book. The book takes the reader along a methodical process to understand God''s design. Certain chapters of the book focus on personal stories and healing, other... See more
As someone who has personally suffered from sexual abuse as a child and an adult, I strongly recommend this book. The book takes the reader along a methodical process to understand God''s design. Certain chapters of the book focus on personal stories and healing, other chapters focus more on the psychological and spiritual implications of abuse. This is definately a book one may read through slowly and thoughtfully, stopping often to reflect on purifying their misshapen attitudes of themselves. The Truth will set you free.
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Gregory Davidson
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How to be an effective initial caregiver in cases of sexual violence and it''s lingering aftereffects.
Reviewed in the United States on October 9, 2016
While the book is disturbing because no one wants to believe such violence is present in our world, such violence and abuse is real and rather common. A very helpful explication of the reality from the victim''s perspective along with meaningful, supportive responses. A... See more
While the book is disturbing because no one wants to believe such violence is present in our world, such violence and abuse is real and rather common. A very helpful explication of the reality from the victim''s perspective along with meaningful, supportive responses. A good primer for spiritual caregivers, delineating what is part of spiritual triage and emerging awareness and what parts of the horror need to be handled by specially trained counselors and therapists.
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Excellent
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on March 8, 2020
Excellent, biblical and using research. However could do with adding in a bit about fight, flight, friend, flop and freeze responses to traumatic situations.
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This is an easy to read
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on January 28, 2015
This is an easy to read, insightful, revelationary book that I cannot recommend highly enough for anyone who works with / prays with / meets with people who have suffered sexual abuse. Cannot recommend it highly enough.
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JGomez
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Fantastic book!
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 5, 2013
This book is a great book to help victims of sexual assault. It counters common feelings felt by victims and gives a hope for them. The book is very honest and extremely well informed. There are a number of great books on this subject
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Rid of My Disgrace
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 19, 2013
Again I cannot speak highly enough of this book and what it speaks to people who have been misused or abused.
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Insightful, Spiritual healing.
Reviewed in Canada on July 10, 2017
Extremely helpful for understanding and working through abuse from a biblical perspective. This book aides real healing.
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